Still spiraling when they pull back?
Interrupt the loop driving the overthinking and urgency in one focused session.
50-minute online session - $190 AUD
If someone pulls back and you suddenly feel:
• chest tight
• stomach drop
• urgency to fix it
• analysing every message
your nervous system has likely fired an abandonment alarm.
That alarm locks your attention onto one person.
You stop evaluating the relationship.
You start trying to secure them.
That’s how the loop begins.
What’s Actually Happening.
Uncertainty triggers Target Obsession Reflex.
This is the alarm.
Once it fires, your attention collapses onto one person.
Over time this becomes Single Target Obsession.
Now their attention feels like safety.
That’s why the same relationship pattern repeats.
Interrupt the alarm, and the loop stops running your decisions.
The TOR Reset.
A focused 50-minute session designed to interrupt the loop.
In this session we:
• identify the trigger firing the alarm
• regulate the nervous system spike
• map your personal loop
• create a grounded next step
This isn’t endless talking.
It’s a targeted intervention designed to interrupt the pattern quickly.
After the Reset, most clients report:
• reduced urgency and overthinking
• less fixation on one person
• clearer thinking about the relationship
• feeling calmer in uncertainty
You stop reacting.
You start choosing.
Start With a Reset.
50-minute online session
$190 AUD
For clients outside Australia, sessions are delivered in a coaching capacity.
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Rachael.
Founder of The Loop Model
Therapist specialising in fear of abandonment and relationship fixation patterns.
Helping clients interrupt nervous system loops that drive obsessive relationship dynamics.