3 Levels of Support
At Lighter Tomorrow, we specialise in nervous-system based therapy for attachment anxiety, fear of abandonment, and obsession in dating.
If you keep getting stuck on one person, overthinking, and waiting to be chosen, it’s not random.
It’s a loop.
And there are three levels we can work at depending on how deeply you want to shift it.
TOR Reset Session
50 Minutes | $190 AUD
For when you’re currently activated and need clarity fast.
If you’re:
Overthinking constantly
Checking your phone repeatedly
Feeling urgent or panicked
Terrified they’re pulling away
This session is designed to interrupt the alarm driving the spiral.
In This Session We:
Map your personal TOR loop (trigger > body > story > behaviour)
Identify what’s driving the urgency
Stabilise your nervous system
Install one regulation strategy
Create a clear next step
You Leave With:
Reduced emotional intensity
A way to interrupt overthinking
Clearer decision making
This is immediate stabilisation - not full pattern rewiring.
TOR & STO Intensive
3 Sessions | $750 AUD (Most Popular)
For when this keeps happening.
If you:
Repeatedly get stuck on emotionally unavailable people
Stay in situationships longer than you should
Feel fear of abandonment driving your behaviour
Collapse onto one person and can’t let go
This is where we break the pattern structurally.
ACROSS 3 SESSIONS:
Session 1 - Deep Loop Mapping
We map your full TOR & STO cycle and identify how it maintains itself.
Session 2 - Target Formation & Attachment Patterns
We explore clear standards, practice secure responses, and install a decision framework so you stop acting while activated.
Session 3 - Secure Behaviour Installation
We build clear standards, practice secure responses, and install a decision framework so you stop acting while activated.
You Leave With:
A clear understanding of your obsession loop
Reduced fixation intensity
Tools to respond securely
The ability to evaluate instead of chase
This is structural pattern change.
Loop Rewire Transformation
9 Sessions | $2,500 AUD
The most in-depth work offered at Lighter Tomorrow.
For those ready to stop repeating this cycle entirely.
If you:
Don’t want this to resurface in your next relationship
Are tired of fear of abandonment driving your choices
Want identity-level change
Are ready for deep nervous system work
This is a three-phase transformation process.
Phase 1 - Stabilisation (Sessions 1-3)
Lower baseline activation and increase regulation capacity so the alarm no longer dominates your behaviour.
Phase 2 - Core Rewiring (Sessions 4-6)
Reprocess attachment imprints and abandonment scripts that drive target fixation.
Phase 3 - Secure Installation (Sessions 7-9)
Install secure relational behaviour, refine standards, and build relapse prevention so the pattern doesn’t rebuild.
You Leave With:
Nervous system stability in dating
No Single Target Obsession dominance
Clear relational standards
Secure behavioural responses
A relapse prevention framework
This is identity-level change - not symptom management.
If you’re unsure which level is right for you, start with a
TOR Reset Session.
From there, we can determine whether deeper structural work is needed.
Not Sure Where to Start?
Closing Statement.
You don’t need to try harder.
You need to interrupt the loop your nervous system is running.
When the alarm settles, you stop waiting to be chosen.
You start choosing from stability.
Questions?
For clients located outside Australia, services are provided in a coaching capacity and do not constitute psychotherapy or mental health treatment.