12 MONTH PROGRAM FOR PEOPLE WHO WANT TO FEEL CHOSEN AND CREATE SECURE, RECIPROCAL RELATIONSHIPS
CREATE THE RELATIONSHIP
& DATING LIFE
YOU WANT
Escape The Dating Loop So You Can Think Clearly, Feel Secure, And Create Relationships Where You Are Genuinely Chosen
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LET ME GUESS…
You can feel perfectly fine one minute, and then one change in their tone, a slower reply or a cancelled plan sends your whole body into a panic.
You spend hours trying to work out what they meant, what changed, whether they’re pulling away and, most importantly, whether they still want you.
You know you’re thinking about them far too much, but trying to stop only makes you think about them more. You check, analyse, replay conversations, look for reassurance… and then feel frustrated with yourself for doing it again.
And whether you’re in a relationship, stuck in a situationship, hoping an ex comes back, or completely single but unable to move on from someone, part of you is still waiting for them to choose you.
If your romantic life has started to feel like one long search for reassurance that you’ll be chosen,
you’re exactly who I created this for.
IMAGINE INSTEAD…
Feeling secure in the relationship you want, without constantly wondering whether they’re pulling away or if they still want you.
Knowing how to navigate the moments of uncertainty without spiraling, so you can actually build the connection you want with them.
Being able to love someone and want them deeply without your entire emotional world depending on whether they text, call, choose you or pull closer.
Creating a relationship where you feel genuinely chosen, wanted and secure, without having to chase, convince or lose yourself along the way.
This is exactly what Escape The Dating Loop helps you do!
Everything You Need To Know
THE METHOD
The Loop Model
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Three essential pillars. Together, they help you calm your body’s alarm, free your mind from the cycle that keeps you stuck on them, and create secure, reciprocal relationships where you are genuinely chosen.
Calm The Alarm
Calm without spiral.
Understand what happens when uncertainty hits and learn how to calm the alarm, so you can stop reacting from panic, chasing reassurance and fearing the worst.
Break The Obsession
Your mind back.
Break the cycle that keeps one person consuming your thoughts, so you can stop checking, analysing and replaying everything, and finally have space to think clearly again.
Become Chosen
Chosen without chasing.
Learn how to create secure, reciprocal relationships where you feel genuinely chosen, without having to chase, convince or abandon yourself to keep someone.
THE INCLUSIONS
Escape The Dating Loop
What’s Inside
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Two ways to Escape The Dating Loop. One goal: to help you feel genuinely chosen.
Escape The Dating Loop - Essentials
Curriculum - Where You Learn On The Go
12 month access to the complete Escape The Dating Loop program, including the full Loop Model framework, nine modules across Calm The Alarm, Break The Obsession, and Become Chosen.
First Step - Where We Create Your Plan
A private 60-minute session with Rachael when you join, where she gets to know your story, identifies where you're currently stuck in The Loop and creates your personalised starting plan.
Calls - Where You Get Coached Live
Weekly 90-minute live group calls with deeper teaching, Q&A and weekly accountability, plus two live mastermind classes each year: Reset Your Alarm and Meet Your Parts.
Support - Where You Get Answers
Dating and relationship question support four days a week from Rachael, with replies within 24 hours, so you can get guidance when you're unsure what to do next.
Community - Where You Learn From Others
A private, protected and moderated space where you can share, connect and learn alongside others navigating their relationships and dating lives.
Tools - Where You Put It Into Practice
Worksheets, scripts and recorded workshops to help you apply what you’re learning to your real-life relationships and dating situations..
Escape The Dating Loop - Personalised
The Full Experience - Where You Get Everything In Essentials
The complete Escape The Dating Loop — Essentials program, including the Loop Model framework, plan, live calls, support, community and practical tools.
1:1 Support - Where We Make It Personal
6 × 60-minute private sessions with Rachael, used at your own pace at any time across the 12 months.
What You’ll Learn Inside
THE CURRICULUM
Map Your Loop
How you identify what triggers your Loop, what happens in your body and mind, and what you do next.
Reset Your Alarm
How you pause and stay with the body sensation before you react, text, check or fix, so the alarm stops running the show.
Trust Your Body
How you build safety with your own internal experience, so you can respond instead of reacting when the uncertainty hits.
Catch Your Pattern
How you name your specific obsessive behaviours, the checking, replaying, monitoring, reassurance seeking, so you can see them coming.
Change Your Response
How you build your own regulation toolkit and a clear "when the alarm fires, I will" plan, so the automatic behaviours lose their grip.
Reclaim Your Attention
How you reconnect with the life, goals, hobbies and identity that existed before the obsession, and put your energy back where it belongs
Meet Your Parts
How you gently meet the parts driving the attachment, the protector and the exile carrying the abandonment and loneliness, and reparent them, so the safety comes from inside.
Raise Your Standards
How you clarify your values, non-negotiables and boundaries, and read green and red flags early, so you date with intention.
Stay Chosen
How you lock in secure communication and relapse prevention, spot the early warning signs, and hold the change whether they come back, a new person shows up, or life throws a trigger.
MEET YOUR COACH
Rachael
I’m Rachael, a therapist, loneliness researcher and creator of The Loop Model™, helping people clear their mind of the one person they can't stop thinking about and create secure relationships where they are chosen.
Over the past 5+ years, I’ve helped 1000’s of people break patterns of overthinking, obsession and anxious attachment so they can feel calmer, think clearly and build healthier, more secure relationships.
My signature method, The Loop Model™, helps you understand why uncertainty can take over your mind, break the cycle of obsession, hope and heartbreak, and create relationships that are secure, reciprocal and genuinely chosen.
If you’re still stuck on that one person you can’t stop thinking about and waiting to be chosen by them, the truth is it’s costing you more than you realise.
She was able to make me feel safe + work through some very complex emotional issues. She's caring and friendly while also being able to challenge me when there's the need. I highly recommend Rachael.
Therapy with Rachael has been life changing for me.
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Damian
Dedicated, cares for her clients and strives to be the best she can be to help them in any way required! Cannot be more glowing of her to all considering her services!
Rachael is the ultimate professional.
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Chip
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Life changing stuff!!
Really friendly service, highly recommend Rachael, good price and we got along really well!
Lachlan
Results From Our Clients
THE RESULTS
What Makes Us Different
THE DIFFERENTIATOR
Personalised Guidance
Whether you’re in a relationship, a situationship, trying to get your ex back, or dating and wondering why you keep ending up in the same place, your support is tailored to what’s actually happening for you.
Direct 1:1 Support
Direct feedback and support from Rachael throughout your journey, so you’re not left trying to figure out how to apply the work to your specific relationship on your own.
Everything You Need
The full Loop Model, with the tools, worksheets, scripts and workshops you need to understand your pattern, interrupt The Dating Loop and move towards being genuinely chosen.
Answers To Your Questions
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Escape The Dating Loop™ is an ongoing program. As soon as you join you will get a minimum of 12 months of access to the online course and support to create relationships where you are chosen.
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This is for you if you are single, dating, in a situationship, can’t let go of your ex, in a relationship.
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Yes, all live events will be recorded and can be accessed by you at anytime.
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Escape The Dating Loop comes with personalised support, so you’re not left trying to work out how to apply the work to your own situation.
With Essentials, you get support inside the private community, weekly live group calls, and dating and relationship question support throughout the week.
With Personalised, you get everything in Essentials, plus 6 x 60-minute 1:1 sessions with me, which you can use across the 12 months at your own pace.
But if you're wondering whether group support can really make a difference when this feels like such a personal experience, let me tell you why I think it matters.
The Loop can feel incredibly isolating.
You can be surrounded by friends and family and still feel like nobody actually understands why you're this affected by one person.
Being in a space with other people who get it changes that.
You realise you're not the only one whose stomach drops when someone pulls away. You're not the only one who can feel completely fine one minute and desperate for reassurance the next. You're not the only one who desperately wants to be chosen and doesn't understand why this feels so consuming.
And that's powerful.
Because you get to stop thinking, “What is wrong with me?” and start thinking, “Oh. This is The Loop.”
And then there's the power of having other perspectives.
It's not just about me telling you what to do. You're surrounded by people at different points in their own journey, with different experiences, insights and perspectives that can help you see your own situation differently.
You don't have to navigate your relationships alone anymore.
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A LOT. I am your coach in this program. I run group calls each week, you can ask me dating/relationship questions Mon-Thurs, and I respond to your posts in the community.
If you are in the Personalised program you will also have 1:1 access to me in our sessions.
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I stand deeply behind this program and have poured so much time, energy and heart into creating something that genuinely helps you Escape The Dating Loop.
Because of the nature of the program and the depth of support included, all enrolments are non-refundable.
When you join, you’re committing to giving yourself the time and space to actually do the work — whether you’re currently in a relationship, a situationship, trying to get over an ex, or hoping someone will finally choose you.
I’m here to support you through that process. But the transformation comes from being willing to show up, work through the Loop and apply what you’re learning to your own life.
You don’t need to have it all figured out when you join. You just need to be ready to start.
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While I wish I could, I can’t guarantee a particular result or outcome from the program. What I can promise is that I will give you the framework, tools, guidance and support to help you understand The Loop, interrupt the patterns keeping you stuck, and build the capacity to create relationships where you feel genuinely chosen.
The stories and results shared on this website come from people who showed up, engaged with the work and applied it to their own lives. Your results will depend on what you bring to the process too.
Your journey may not look exactly like someone else’s. You might be in a relationship, a situationship, trying to get your ex back, dating, or completely single when you begin. You may see changes quickly, or you may need more time to work through what’s underneath your Loop.
Wherever you’re starting from, my commitment is to give you the tools and support to help you move through it, and to make sure you’re never trying to figure it all out alone.
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Let me ask you something — what is The Loop costing you?
How much time are you spending thinking about them, analysing the relationship, waiting for their next move, hoping they’ll come back, or trying to work out how to finally get them to choose you?
How much of your life is being lived around whether someone is close or pulling away?
And how much longer do you want to keep doing this?
I know investing in yourself can feel scary. Especially when part of you is thinking, “What if this doesn't work?”
I get it. You don't have to feel completely ready before you start.
But if you already know that what you're doing isn't changing the pattern, continuing to do the same thing has a cost too.
Escape The Dating Loop is an investment in understanding what is actually happening inside you, and learning how to change the cycle.
You won't be asked to stop wanting love. You won't be told to just “choose yourself” and walk away from the person you want.
You'll learn how to calm the alarm, break the obsession and become someone who can create relationships where you are genuinely chosen.
And you don't have to figure it out alone.
If you're ready to stop spending your life inside The Loop, this is your next step.

