90 DAY PROGRAM FOR PEOPLE STUCK IN EMOTIONAL ROLLERCOASTER RELATIONSHIPS
STOP REPEATING THE SAME RELATIONSHIP PATTERNS
Start building the relationship you actually want.
LET ME GUESS…
You can feel completely fine one minute, and then one change in their behaviour sends you into a spiral.
You're checking your phone, analysing messages, replaying conversations and trying to work out what changed.
When they're close, everything feels amazing. When they pull away, you can't concentrate on anything else.
You want a healthy relationship. You want consistency, connection and someone whose values and goals align with yours. But knowing what you want hasn't stopped you from getting caught up in dynamics that leave you feeling exhausted.
And the frustrating part? You might know exactly what you should do, but when you're emotionally invested, it's much harder to follow through.
If you're tired of repeating the same relationship patterns and want to do something differently,
you're in the right place.
IMAGINE INSTEAD…
Being able to enjoy a relationship without every change in someone's behaviour throwing you off.
Being able to think clearly when things feel uncertain, instead of spending hours analysing what happened or trying to fix the connection
Recognising when someone is genuinely compatible with you, rather than becoming so invested that you overlook the things that matter
Being able to like someone, acknowledge that the relationship isn't working for you, and make a decision without feeling like your entire world is falling apart.
This is what we're working towards over 90 days: helping you break the patterns that keep you stuck, build trust in your own decisions and create healthier relationships.
Everything You Need To Know
THE METHOD
The Loop Model
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Three essential pillars to help you change the way you experience relationships, respond to uncertainty and choose the relationships you want to build.
Calm The Alarm
Calm without spiral.
Learn what happens in your body when a relationship feels uncertain, and develop practical ways to settle the alarm before you react. So you can think more clearly, handle difficult moments and stop spending your days consumed by what's happening between you.
Break The Pattern
Your mind back.
Recognise the patterns that keep you checking, analysing, replaying conversations and seeking reassurance. Learn to interrupt those habits and put your attention back into your own life, goals and relationships.
Your Choice
Build relationships that actually fit you.
Get clear on your values, standards, boundaries and relationship goals. Learn to recognise compatibility, communicate what matters to you and make decisions based on the relationship you want, not just how strongly you feel about someone.
THE INCLUSIONS
Escape The Dating Loop
What’s Inside
Two ways to Escape The Dating Loop. One goal: to help you stop repeating exhausting relationship patterns and start building healthier, more compatible relationships..
Escape The Dating Loop - Essentials
Curriculum - Where You Learn On The Go
90-day access to the complete program, including nine modules covering the three pillars of the Loop Model: Calm The Alarm, Break The Pattern, and Your Choice.
Support - Get Answers When You Need Them
Dating and relationship question support four days a week from Rachael, with replies within 24 hours. Get guidance on applying what you’re learning to the situations you’re actually dealing with.
Calls - Get Coached Live
Weekly 90-minute live group calls featuring deeper teaching, Q&A and accountability. Bring your questions, work through real-life challenges and learn alongside others working towards healthier relationships.
Community - Connect With People Who Get It
A private, protected and moderated space where you can share experiences, ask questions, and learn alongside others who understand how exhausting relationship patterns can be.
Tools - Put What You Learn Into Practice
Worksheets, scripts and recorded workshops to help you apply what you’re learning to your dating life, current relationship, or situationship.
Escape The Dating Loop - Personalised
The Full Experience - Everything In Essentials
Get the complete Escape The Dating Loop program, including the curriculum, weekly live calls, support, private community, and practical tools.
1:1 Support - Personalised Work With Rachael
Six 60-minute private sessions with Rachael to work through your specific relationship patterns, challenges, and goals. Use these sessions throughout your 90-day program.
What You’ll Learn Over 90 Days
THE CURRICULUM
Map Your Loop
Understand what triggers your relationship patterns, what happens in your body and mind, and what you tend to do next. You'll map your own pattern so you can recognise what's happening instead of feeling like you're constantly reacting without knowing why.
Reset Your Alarm
Learn how to pause and work with uncomfortable body sensations before you text, check, chase or try to fix a situation. Build practical skills to handle uncertainty without immediately acting on it.
Trust Your Body
Learn to stay connected to your own experience when difficult feelings arise. Build your capacity to notice what you're feeling and respond thoughtfully, rather than letting the fear of losing a connection make your decisions for you..
Catch Your Pattern
Identify the behaviours that keep you stuck, including checking, replaying conversations, monitoring someone's behaviour and seeking reassurance. Recognise your patterns earlier so you can begin changing them.
Change Your Response
Build a practical toolkit for the moments when your alarm fires. Create a plan for what you'll do differently when you feel the urge to chase, check, withdraw or seek reassurance.
Reclaim Your Attention
Reconnect with your life outside the relationship. Put energy back into your goals, hobbies, friendships and interests, so your world doesn't revolve around what someone else is doing.
Meet Your Parts
Explore the protective responses and deeper emotional experiences that can influence your relationship patterns. Learn to respond to yourself with greater understanding and build a stronger sense of internal safety.
Raise Your Standards
Get clear on your values, relationship goals, non-negotiables and boundaries. Learn to recognise green and red flags, assess compatibility and stop overlooking important differences just because you like someone.
You Choose
Bring everything together. Learn to communicate your needs, recognise early warning signs, maintain the changes you've made and make decisions about your relationships with greater clarity and confidence.
Whether you decide to work on your current relationship, set a boundary, stop participating in an unhelpful dynamic or approach future relationships differently, you'll have practical tools to help you move forward.
MEET YOUR COACH
Rachael
I’m Rachael, a therapist, loneliness researcher and creator of The Loop Model™.
Over the past 5+ years, I’ve helped 1000’s of people understand the patterns behind their relationship struggles, work through overthinking and emotional distress, and build healthier relationships. I know how frustrating it can be to understand what you want from a relationship but still find yourself repeating the same patterns.
My signature method, The Loop Model™, helps you develop the skills to recognise what is happening, understand what matters to you and make decisions that support the kind of relationship you want to build.
If you're tired of ending up in the same exhausting relationship dynamics, you don't have to keep trying to figure it out alone.
She was able to make me feel safe + work through some very complex emotional issues. She's caring and friendly while also being able to challenge me when there's the need. I highly recommend Rachael.
Therapy with Rachael has been life changing for me.
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Damian
Dedicated, cares for her clients and strives to be the best she can be to help them in any way required! Cannot be more glowing of her to all considering her services!
Rachael is the ultimate professional.
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Chip
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Life changing stuff!!
Really friendly service, highly recommend Rachael, good price and we got along really well!
Lachlan
Results From Our Clients
THE RESULTS
What Makes Us Different
THE DIFFERENTIATOR
Personalised Guidance
Whether you're in a relationship, stuck in a situationship or dating and wondering why you keep ending up in the same place, your support is tailored to your circumstances and the changes you want to make.
Direct 1:1 Support
Get guidance on applying the work to your actual life. You're not left with a collection of concepts and expected to figure out how to use them when you're in the middle of a difficult relationship situation.
Everything You Need
The Loop Model™ brings together body-focused work, pattern recognition and relationship skills. You'll learn to recognise what happens when things feel uncertain, change your responses, clarify what matters to you and make decisions about the relationships you want to build.
Answers To Your Questions
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Escape The Dating Loop is a 90-day program. Once you join, you'll receive access to the curriculum, community and program support for the duration of your enrolment. You'll be able to work through the modules at your own pace while participating in the live calls and support available during your program.
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Yes. This program is for people who want to change exhausting relationship patterns, whether they're single, dating, in a situationship or already in a relationship.
You don't have to leave your relationship to do this work.
You might want to improve communication, set boundaries, work on the relationship or understand whether the dynamic is right for you. The aim is to help you recognise your patterns, develop practical skills and make decisions that align with what you want.
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Yes, live program calls will be recorded and made available to participants, subject to any privacy considerations for group discussions.
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Yes. There are two ways to participate.
With Essentials, you receive the full curriculum, private community, weekly group calls and dating and relationship question support Monday to Thursday.
With Personalised, you receive everything in Essentials, plus six 60-minute private sessions with me during your 90-day program.
The group program gives you the opportunity to learn alongside others who understand the challenges you're experiencing. The Personalised option adds dedicated time for us to focus on your individual circumstances, goals and relationship patterns.
You don't have to figure everything out alone, and you don't have to be the only person in the room who understands what this feels like.
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With Essentials, you can ask dating and relationship questions Monday to Thursday, participate in weekly 90-minute group calls and connect with me and the community through the program.
With Personalised, you also receive six private 60-minute sessions with me during your 90-day program.
Support is designed to help you apply what you're learning to real situations, rather than leaving you to work it all out on your own.
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I stand deeply behind this program and have poured so much time, energy and heart into creating something that genuinely helps you Escape The Dating Loop.
Because of the nature of the program and the depth of support included, all enrolments are non-refundable.
When you join, you’re committing to giving yourself the time and space to actually do the work — whether you’re currently in a relationship, a situationship, trying to get over an ex, or hoping someone will finally choose you.
I’m here to support you through that process. But the transformation comes from being willing to show up, work through the Loop and apply what you’re learning to your own life.
You don’t need to have it all figured out when you join. You just need to be ready to start.
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While I wish I could, I can’t guarantee a particular result or outcome from the program. What I can promise is that I will give you the framework, tools, guidance and support to help you understand The Loop, interrupt the patterns keeping you stuck, and build the capacity to create relationships where you feel genuinely chosen.
The stories and results shared on this website come from people who showed up, engaged with the work and applied it to their own lives. Your results will depend on what you bring to the process too.
Your journey may not look exactly like someone else’s. You might be in a relationship, a situationship, trying to get your ex back, dating, or completely single when you begin. You may see changes quickly, or you may need more time to work through what’s underneath your Loop.
Wherever you’re starting from, my commitment is to give you the tools and support to help you move through it, and to make sure you’re never trying to figure it all out alone.
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Let me ask you something — what is The Loop costing you?
How much time are you spending thinking about them, analysing the relationship, waiting for their next move, hoping they’ll come back, or trying to work out how to finally get them to choose you?
How much of your life is being lived around whether someone is close or pulling away?
And how much longer do you want to keep doing this?
I know investing in yourself can feel scary. Especially when part of you is thinking, “What if this doesn't work?”
I get it. You don't have to feel completely ready before you start.
But if you already know that what you're doing isn't changing the pattern, continuing to do the same thing has a cost too.
Escape The Dating Loop is an investment in understanding what is actually happening inside you, and learning how to change the cycle.
You won't be asked to stop wanting love. You won't be told to just “choose yourself” and walk away from the person you want.
You'll learn how to calm the alarm, break the obsession and become someone who can create relationships where you are genuinely chosen.
And you don't have to figure it out alone.
If you're ready to stop spending your life inside The Loop, this is your next step.